Not to mention dress and entire look!
Archive for December, 2007
This blog has some advice about coming out as a crossdresser:
Within both society in general and the transgender community, there tends to be numerous dramatic tales of “The Wife Who Immediately Sought Divorce After Discovering Her Husband’s Secret Crossdressing Desire.” I extol my readers to not become caught up by such fears. The fact is, at least within my experience as a careprovider, those marriages which end solely on account of the discovery of a spouse’s crossdressing is a rarity. At worst, a shocked spouse may react with anger and severe disappointment. However, in situations where a spouse walks out the door upon discovery, there are almost always other problems with the relationship. Crossdressing becomes just another reason to end the relationship. My suggestion, if your relationship is on rocky ground, leave that secret wardrobe well hidden and out of sight.
In deciding whether disclosure is appropriate within a relationship, crossdressers must bear in mind that it is possible to pursue this activity in a manner which has no effect on a spouse or others. This is particularly so for persons who only dress occasionally, and have no interest in living “in role” as a member of the opposite gender. While this arrangement may not meet the expectation of one’s fantasies, it is possible to establish transfriendly relationships outside your marriage which provide emotional support, places to store clothing, and dressing opportunities.
Miss Donna Queen is one of my favorite bloggers and crossdressers. She’s sexy and informative and fun, and has lots of great photos up in not just one but TWO separate Flickr accounts. Yesterday, I did a very NSFW guest post over on her blog, which is always interesting and informative – I first visited it to read a post about one of my favorite topics: spanking, in which she interviewed spanking model and video star Erica Scott. I know Donna will be happy to know that my book Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, comes out in July – she will be one of the first to get a copy.
Here are some photos of the lovely Donna:
Getting her makeup done:
And also see the T-Girls With Class and Sex Pool on Flickr!
The Slate article prompted me to find some drag king videos on YouTube:
This one’s a montage from the Great Big International Drag King show:
This one is of MilDréd – here’s an interview with her
And here’s Justin Zaas doing Thomas Dolby’s “She Blindded Me With Science”
“My Short Life as a Drag King,” Emily Yoffe, Slate – click through to watch the video as well of Emily performing as “Johnson Manly” (via Feministing)
I was familiar with drag queens—men who dress flamboyantly as women for shows or events, but I wasn’t aware of a complementary drag king culture until a Slate colleague suggested I enter it. I quickly found the D.C. Kings, founded in 2000, which bills itself as “The World’s Longest Running Drag King Troupe.” The first thing that struck me when looking at their Web site was that drag kings are nice girls. “[W]e are extremely supportive of one another,” they promised. “We are here for you and we want you to have fun.”
Their shows—consisting of 10 individual or paired-up performers lip syncing to popular songs—occur twice a month. To get on the roster, all I had to do was attend their monthly meeting. There were about 18 of us, a mixed-race group mostly in their 20s and 30s. Some were feminine-looking women with long hair and makeup. Some were clearly female but with short haircuts and mannish clothes. Some just looked like men.
The meeting was run by the troupe’s founder, Ken Vegas, 34, a graphic designer whose real name is Kendra Kuliga. Ken (I will refer to people by their preferred names and pronouns—usually male) began the meeting by suggesting we all introduce ourselves by giving our names, astrological signs, and packing preferences. This last item does not mean Styrofoam versus bubble wrap, but what kings like to put in their pants as a simulated phallus. The answers ranged from socks, to Mr. Bendy, to half an apple.
At the meeting, Herbie, 23, volunteered to be my guide. He is stout, has a blond crew cut, and describes himself as a “non-op female-body transgender person”—essentially a lesbian who identifies as a male but is not doing anything surgically about it. Each day, he packs and wears what’s known as a compression shirt to bind his breasts. “I call it ‘manning up,’ ” he explained.