Posts Tagged ‘crossdressers’

Club for crossdressers can’t open

January 16, 2008

image via Metro Times Detroit

“Tranny space,” Metro Times Detroit

But it’s not exactly business as usual, because the proposed club will be for cross-dressing men and transgender people. Club owner Janet Law (a self-described tranny who legally changed her name from Tom to Janet) and her lawyer say the case is more about dirty politics, the First Amendment right to assemble and discrimination against transgendered people.

Law owns a 15,000-square-foot building on Fort Street in the downriver community. National Engines, a garage and parts store for race cars, occupies about 12,000 square feet. Another part of the building is Janet’s Closet, a store selling wigs, makeup, clothing and accessories for cross-dressing men.

“We’re not an adult store. There’s no porn. There are no dildos. There’s no ass lube. There’s no butt plugs,” Law says. “This is an upscale store. It’s not a black room with one light bulb. This is a serious store for a cross-dresser or transgendered person.”

As her business grew, Law renovated the last 1,200 square feet of the building into the club. Men would be able to arrive in their “regular” clothes and use on-site locker rooms to apply makeup, do their hair and change into women’s apparel.

“There’s no sex here. There’s nothing like that,” Law says. “It’s a clean, discreet place for transgenders.”

“Officials keep club for cross-dressers shuttered,” The Detroit News

WYANDOTTE — Dressed for guests in heels and a short skirt, Janet Law sipped a drink alone in the private club she hopes to open for cross-dressing men.

She mailed invitations to city officials in hopes of making peace in a year-long feud over the club. None came Tuesday to Janet’s Place, the disco-lighted lounge and dance floor in the back of Law’s Fort Street speed shop and race car engine-building business, National Machined Engine.

“I was hopeful, but did I really think any of them would come and meet me and see what they fear? No,” said Law, 56, who was well-known in the car racing community as Edward “RJ” Law before getting breast implants four years ago and living as a cross-dresser.

City officials have refused to issue permits to allow Law to operate the club, insisting she lacks parking to accommodate customers. She and her lawyer say officials have ulterior motives and will make a final appeal Wednesday to the Zoning Board of Appeals before filing suit.

In a standoff that’s caught the attention of advocates in the transgender community, Law’s lawyer, Guy Conti, says Wyandotte is violating her constitutional rights because the 1,400-square-foot club otherwise meets zoning rules.

Drag queens fundraising

January 1, 2008

From Kevin Goebel, via Flickr – click here for a whole set of photos from a fundraiser for the POC AIDS Resource Center

When to come out as a crossdresser

December 20, 2007

This blog has some advice about coming out as a crossdresser:

Within both society in general and the transgender community, there tends to be numerous dramatic tales of “The Wife Who Immediately Sought Divorce After Discovering Her Husband’s Secret Crossdressing Desire.” I extol my readers to not become caught up by such fears. The fact is, at least within my experience as a careprovider, those marriages which end solely on account of the discovery of a spouse’s crossdressing is a rarity. At worst, a shocked spouse may react with anger and severe disappointment. However, in situations where a spouse walks out the door upon discovery, there are almost always other problems with the relationship. Crossdressing becomes just another reason to end the relationship. My suggestion, if your relationship is on rocky ground, leave that secret wardrobe well hidden and out of sight.

In deciding whether disclosure is appropriate within a relationship, crossdressers must bear in mind that it is possible to pursue this activity in a manner which has no effect on a spouse or others. This is particularly so for persons who only dress occasionally, and have no interest in living “in role” as a member of the opposite gender. While this arrangement may not meet the expectation of one’s fantasies, it is possible to establish transfriendly relationships outside your marriage which provide emotional support, places to store clothing, and dressing opportunities.

The lovely Miss Donna Queen

December 20, 2007

Miss Donna Queen is one of my favorite bloggers and crossdressers. She’s sexy and informative and fun, and has lots of great photos up in not just one but TWO separate Flickr accounts. Yesterday, I did a very NSFW guest post over on her blog, which is always interesting and informative – I first visited it to read a post about one of my favorite topics: spanking, in which she interviewed spanking model and video star Erica Scott. I know Donna will be happy to know that my book Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, comes out in July – she will be one of the first to get a copy.

Here are some photos of the lovely Donna:

Getting her makeup done:

And also see the T-Girls With Class and Sex Pool on Flickr!

The life of the teenage crossdresser

December 18, 2007

I just discovered the blog “Being a teenage crossdresser,” which is about:

The pleasure & difficulty of being a teenage crossdresser and more. I ain’t just a crossdresser, i have a life aswell. This blog just keeps my diary of all events, not just crossdress related ones.

It’s written by Alice, an 18-year-old student, who can read more about here.

Photo via Flickr

Here’s a sampling:

When I cycled in for my lecture later, I decided to bring some cash so that I could waste time (and money) in the city while I wait for my presentation. The lecture was interesting but I knew most of it. I walked to town through a beautiful and ancient path designed for the students for my very purpose. I had nothing that I wanted to buy; I only wished to peruse what was on sale. I walked around the market for a while and then went clothes shopping. The thrill of walking in the women’s section of a store is something that only crossdressers know. The excitement of the forbidden and the lure of the pretty things.

I feel extra special, for I have a deep belief that it shouldn’t be forbidden. For me, the act is a rebellious one. I am saying ‘yes I am a man, and yes I like women’s clothes’. We should be able to buy what we want, not what is prescribed for us by sex, fashion or anything.

My mini rebellion went unnoticed and I started the walk back to university to give my presentation. The pre-stage jitters were starting in my stomach. I was hurled back to my GCSE Drama where I was frequently forced to perform. I used to love this feeling. It is anticipation mixed with dread, mixed with the glory of completing it later. I was in a musical or two in my last school but I was on anti-depressants and as such, I didn’t feel too many emotions.

Now I feel it more than ever. It was almost erotic how I was paralysed by fear and excited at the same time. Angela Carter in her infinite wisdom wrote about the stage in her novel Wise Children. Among a multitude of quotations I could use, the way she describes the wait for the curtain coming up is the most powerful for me. ‘We were wet for it!’ Simple and beautifully true. All erotic symbolism of the theatre aside, it was exactly what I was feeling about giving a presentation to my discussion group (a slightly less romantic setting).

Alice also has a link to a fabulous page of information called Speaking of Crossdressing, which answers questions such as Why do people crossdress? and How do you supplement your bust line? Here’s a snippet:

Are you trying to pass as a female? “Passing” is a big deal in the crossdressing community and it shouldn’t be. Many CDs sustain a fantasy about passing, I suspect it’s because they imagine they won’t be noticed and thereby held accountable for their actions. The makeup becomes a mask, providing anonymity. So they wear short skirts, fishnet hose, and 6″ spike heels at the mall! Go figure. Those who have a brain in their heads will dress with a certain degree of age-appropriate style and panache, always looking nice; so even if they are “clocked” others will respect them for maintaining an aura of decorum. I want to project as nice an image as I can, so I go the extra mile with hair, makeup, figure enhancements, etc. Many people still see me as a man in a dress, but at least they see a stylish, fashionable man in a dress. In reality, most folks are just too self-absorbed in their own worlds to notice or care much at all about the people around them.

As far as I’m concerned, it’s not passing I’m after – it’s acceptance or, at least, tolerance. That puts the onus on others; if I get clocked and the observers still treat me with respect, they pass!

A sissy maid

December 17, 2007

Found on Flickr, from user ReVision Photography

Photograph by Melanie Nicol and Mook

©2007 ~RevisionPhotography

It’s also part of a Flickr group called Tgirls, legs, heels & hosiery

Crossdresser transformations and makeovers

December 15, 2007

A drag queen transforms herself:

A salon for crossdressers in Connecticut

December 8, 2007

Very interesting post about a salon/spa in Connecticut, Joy of Nails, that aims to serve EVERYONE:

Would It Be Beneficial for a female owned/staffed business to hire a crossdressing male, TV or TS?”

Susan is the new owner of a Salon & Spa and is already helping women improve themselves, encourage empowerment and hopefully assisting women in taking charge of their lives.

Her other goal is to provide a discreet salon where cross dressers, TV’s & TS’s can feel comfortable, be pampered and not have to worry about discrimination. A recent cross dresser visited the salon and this person discovered that she and her staff were very accepting of individuals in alternative lifestyles.

This same client at that time of being primped asked to be forcibly feminized having been a categorized cross dresser for years. Per an agreement, Susan made the decision to push HER into the right direction and had made her mind up to completely feminize HER.

Susan and her staff have always felt comfortable around cross dressers so HER feminization provides a unique challenge. Susan would like your opinion. SHE had also expressed a desire to work for Susan and after many years of dressing, being made up for day and not following through with the actual mission of becoming totally feminine she requested Susan and her staff to take charge. Susan wants to know from readers, should she have HER sign a detailed and binding pre-hire contract requiring her to maintain the final feminization for continuing employment?

This cross dresser needs someone that is firm, not cruel, but someone that has a heart, which Susan does, but she will also demand perfection for the finished transformation. Should her transformation be totally in the hands of Susan and her staff, with no options, so that all demands must be met?

All The Kings Men drag king troupe

December 3, 2007

Boston-based All The Kings Men

Anyone who read all of Crossdressing: Erotic Stories, or who snuck ahead to the end to read Melinda Johnson’s wonderful “Some Things Never Change,” got to vicariously experience the thrill of being a drag king. Here’s a snippet:

Writing is a lonely profession, so I break the monotony sometimes by doing a little drag. I’m not the world’s greatest drag king, but still, there’s nothing like the feeling you get from prancing around on stage, women whistling and screaming for you. But it’s more than that, really. I love the way a drag king or queen can be old, saggy, butt-ugly in either gender, but what counts is that they’re up there, doing it. The shows I do are very small, in an old, beat beat-up hall on the east side of town, but when I’m up there, I feel like I’m king of the world. I even throw a few Leo references into my act sometimes, just to amuse myself. No true drag artist can resist a pun. It’s that magic, the magic of the stage, that lets awkward, geeky me get a few girls now and then. Like Christine.

I can replay my first sight of her like a movie in my head. The MC, Mr. Dick Manly, resplendent in a blue sequined tux, had just announced me, “Put your hands together, ladies, for that stud muffin, Herman Leman!” My music started, and I strutted slowly on stage, keeping time to a slow, throbbing electronic beat. I don’t dance so much as pose, gesture languidly, and gradually peel off my outfit. I make a pretty convincing guy, as long as I strap down my generous chest and add a little judicial facial hair. I’ve been told I look a lot like a female James Dean, —the same cast of face, the same carriage. Well, maybe James Dean after a nice motherly type fed him up properly; I’ve always been stocky, and I capitalize on it by lifting weights.

I was dressed in black pants, black shirt, black leather jacket. I walked out on stage, hands on hips. The crowd whistled. And I saw her. They must have seen my tongue hit the floor from the back row. She was a small, slim woman dressed to kill in an acid-green sequined dress and a hot-pink feather boa. Both were Value Village specials, and showed some wear on closer inspection, but from my view on the stage, she shone like a scarlet rhododendron gleaming through the mists of a soft Vancouver rain. I stood open-mouthed, staring, missed my cue to start flexing.

(read the book for the rest!)

You can also catch real drag kings on stages across the country…such as Boston-based drag king troupe All The Kings Men. They describe themselves thusly:

ATKM is an all female performance troupe dedicated to pushing the boundaries and exploring the stereotypes of gender identity through comedic and dramatic story telling set to music.

And another hot description from their MySpage page:

“Sexy melt-in-your-mouth and through your seat theater with hilarious pee-your-pants-and-on-your-neighbor moments, lip-synched, choreographed and improvisationally personality-driven comedic, political, and purely entertaining homo/hetero/bi/a/pan-sexual snort-laughing costume fest.”

There’s a very interesting Bay Windows piece about a straight, married drag king:

But Ryan Stone, known in her daily life as Robin Maxfield, wasn’t like most of her competitors. A straight, married mom in her early 40s from Jamaica Plain, Maxfield works by day as a real estate agent, one of the co-owners of Prudential Unlimited, which has offices in the South End, Brookline, J.P. and Belmont. And she first dabbled in the world of drag a mere three weeks before blowing the competition away at Drag King Idol.

She said her friend David Elliott, owner of the Taylor House bed and breakfast in J.P., told her he was doing drag at Jacques Cabaret as Hazel Nutz, and she was immediately intrigued.

“I said, ’David, I want to be a drag queen. I am a drag queen. I want to do that.’ I have always made costumes, I’ve always liked acting out, but I’ve never really had the opportunities growing up. I didn’t have dance and theater and all that stuff. So I think it’s just been constantly there, but I’ve been living it through other people,” said Maxwell. “He said, ’Well, Robin, you can’t be a drag queen, but you can be a drag king.’ And I said, ’What’s a drag king?’”

Once Elliott explained the basics of drag king performance, Maxwell decided to give it a shot. At a birthday bash for Elliott’s partner, Maxwell and Elliott did a Barry Manilow/Bette Midler duet, “Slow Boat to China.” Maxwell was hooked. (read the rest here)

You can catch them December 6th (see flyer below) and check them out on MySpace.

Figleaf on crossdressing

November 30, 2007

One of my favorite bloggers, Figleaf, of Real Adult Sex, posts on the problem with crossdressing: (it’s an older post but worth reading)

I don’t have a problem with cross-dressing per se. Whatever blows up your skirt, as my mother-in-law sometimes says. The couple of times I’ve tried it were interesting enough. It’s just that… well, it’s just that… women’s-cut clothes rarely look very good on men.

Case in point, check out this photo of former New York Mayor (and current Republican Presidential candidate) Rudolph Giuliani.

They took a bunch of women’s clothes that would fit him at the broadest point — his shoulders — and then padded the rest of him to fill in all the spaces women go but men don’t. Then they stuck a wig on him, which is fine I suppose, but then they threw on a bunch of make-up using patterns that might accentuate the geometry of the average woman’s face but kind of conflicts with Giulianis geometry.

Net effect? He’s not dressed *like* a woman, he’s dressing *as if* he really was a woman. It’s an unsuccessful deception.